It’s that time again – reflection of the year past, and looking ahead to how we want the coming year to pan out.
I’ve been stuck on the term, Self Love, this week. I think it’s because my ability to love myself was challenged to the max this past year. It wasn’t missing altogether, but I realise now, that at times it was severely lacking. Especially in those extremely difficult times when it was most needed. If I’d been able to find a little more Self Love in times of stress and strife, I may have had an easier time of it. My family may have fared better too. But in the spirit of the past being gone and the future yet to arrive, I am working on being gentle with myself right now. Hence this blog post.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has lacked a bit of Self Love this year. Perhaps you are your harshest critic and the voices in your head are relentless in their efforts to smack you back into place. Maybe you’ve forgotten to take time out for you amidst your responsibilities and struggled to keep your head above water. Is it possible that you made a few mistakes and that maybe, just maybe you are human after all?
Giving ourselves Self Love is not being ‘selfish’. It is absolutely essential if we are to become the light beings and peaceful, joyful creatures we were born to be. Life doesn’t have to be hard all the time, in fact it is meant to be an amazing experience. If it isn’t, then perhaps our lack of love for self is one of the culprits. Our world is an extension of what we think and feel. If we do not feel worthy of love, our world reflects this right back to us. If we are critical, harsh and berating of ourselves, our reality becomes that too.
So, I have decided that 2014 is the year of mastering Self Love. To help you and me to feel the love of self more completely this coming year, I asked a few of my friends for their thoughts on what Self Love is and how to achieve it. When I collated the data, I discovered there were a number of common themes. I’ve used their feedback, combined with my own notes to create a Self Love Creed for you and me.
My wish is that you resonate with it, print it out, and use the Self Love Creed to hone your inherent and beautiful gifts, cultivate greater peace and harmony in your daily life, and grow the spark of light that resides within you to a shining beacon lighting the way for others.
A CREED FOR SELF LOVE
With the love and support of the Light That I Am,
I promise to…
- Realise that I’m human – I make mistakes, and that’s okay.
- Be kind and positive with myself in my thoughts, words and actions.
- Be aware of my fundamental values, needs and motivators, and choose to align my actions with these.
- Let my ‘child self’ out to play OFTEN.
- Be accepting of ‘down days’ and be grateful for the opportunity they give to learn more about me.
- Be grateful for all I have and everything I am.
- Choose non-judgement and non-critical thoughts about myself and others.
- Accept that I always do my best in every moment.
- Find out what I love, then spend ‘quality time’ with myself doing those things.
- Tell myself when I do a good job.
- Tell myself I am a good person.
- Be creative – it doesn’t matter what, just create!
- Reassure myself that everything is okay when things don’t go to plan.
- Treat my body with respect – feed it with nourishing foods, drinks and healthy activity.
- Treat my life as if a sacred expression of divinity.
- Offer love, kindness and support to others.
- Keep my heart and mind open to the beauty around me, even the little things.
- Stand by my beliefs with conviction and confidence.
- Be my own best friend.
- Repeat to myself “I have enough, I do enough, I AM ENOUGH” at every opportunity.
- 2013: A Year in Review (rediscoveringnewyork.com)
- An Open Christmas Letter to my Dad the Bandit (fluxcomb.com)
- How to Improve Self Esteem (youuniversityonline.com)
- Tool For Tuesday: 5 Tips on Building Self-Esteem (thebestchapter.com)
- Rules of Self-Esteem (yourfavoritemilk.wordpress.com)
- Self Esteem (shayrobinson.wordpress.com)