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A Creed For Self Love

It’s that time again – reflection of the year past, and looking ahead to how we want the coming year to pan out.

I’ve been stuck on the term, Self Love, this week.  I think it’s because my ability to love myself was challenged to the max this past year.  It wasn’t missing altogether, but I realise now, that at times it was severely lacking. Especially in those extremely difficult times when it was most needed.  If I’d been able to find a little more Self Love in times of stress and strife, I may have had an easier time of it. My family may have fared better too. But in the spirit of the past being gone and the future yet to arrive, I am working on being gentle with myself right now. Hence this blog post.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who has lacked a bit of Self Love this year.  Perhaps you are your harshest critic and the voices in your head are relentless in their efforts to smack you back into place.  Maybe you’ve forgotten to take time out for you amidst your responsibilities and struggled to keep your head above water.  Is it possible that you made a few mistakes and that maybe, just maybe you are human after all?

Giving ourselves Self Love is not being ‘selfish’.  It is absolutely essential if we are to become the light beings and peaceful, joyful creatures we were born to be.  Life doesn’t have to be hard all the time, in fact it is meant to be an amazing experience.  If it isn’t, then perhaps our lack of love for self is one of the culprits.  Our world is an extension of what we think and feel.  If we do not feel worthy of love, our world reflects this right back to us.   If we are critical, harsh and berating of ourselves, our reality becomes that too.

So, I have decided that 2014 is the year of mastering Self Love.  To help you and me to feel the love of self more completely this coming year, I asked a few of my friends for their thoughts on what Self Love is and how to achieve it.  When I collated the data, I discovered there were a number of common themes.  I’ve used their feedback, combined with my own notes to create a Self Love Creed for you and me.

My wish is that you resonate with it, print it out, and use the Self Love Creed to hone your inherent and beautiful gifts, cultivate greater peace and harmony in your daily life, and grow the spark of light that resides within you to a shining beacon lighting the way for others.

A CREED FOR SELF LOVE

With the love and support of the Light That I Am,
I promise to…

  • Realise that I’m human – I make mistakes, and that’s okay.
  • Be kind and positive with myself in my thoughts, words and actions.
  • Be aware of my fundamental values, needs and motivators, and choose to align my actions with these.
  • Let my ‘child self’ out to play OFTEN.
  • Be accepting of ‘down days’ and be grateful for the opportunity they give to learn more about me.
  • Be grateful for all I have and everything I am.
  • Choose non-judgement and non-critical thoughts about myself and others.
  • Accept that I always do my best in every moment.
  • Find out what I love, then spend ‘quality time’ with myself doing those things.
  • Tell myself when I do a good job.
  • Tell myself I am a good person.
  • Be creative – it doesn’t matter what, just create!
  • Reassure myself that everything is okay when things don’t go to plan.
  • Treat my body with respect – feed it with nourishing foods, drinks and healthy activity.
  • Treat my life as if a sacred expression of divinity.
  • Offer love, kindness and support to others.
  • Keep my heart and mind open to the beauty around me, even the little things.
  • Stand by my beliefs with conviction and confidence.
  • Be my own best friend.
  • Repeat to myself “I have enough, I do enough, I AM ENOUGH” at every opportunity.

Happy New Year!Heart in hands

SHUT UP! I’m Busy Here.

Stressed woman screaming

Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out…

That’s it. That’s all there is to it.

Simple, right?

I have deadlines.  Lots of them.  Don’t get me wrong, I love a good deadline – it keeps the creative juices going for me, keeps me on my toes.  I get that ‘edge’ that helps me stay sharp and makes me feel alive.

But when you’re on the edge like that; for days, weeks, months… fatigue happens.  Life is good right now.  Everything is pretty much peachy.  But today, I’m weary.  My heart is crying out for attention, my soul starved for substance.  I’m not yet bone achingly wrung out, but a couple of weeks in my ‘sickbed’ is on the horizon if I don’t stop very, very soon.  I can recognise this state now. I used to push through it and hit the proverbial brick wall for months in order to fulfill my perceived responsibilities to others. Not anymore.  It’s not worth the pain.

So… with my internal ‘To Do’ list blinking URGENT in neon before me, and my brain’s ranting, panicked voice in the background, I deliberately slow myself down enough to grab a coffee from the local café. I didn’t sit down long enough to drink it though. Oh no!  My brain won’t let me slow down that much just yet. It still holds the upper hand. But I’m onto it. I’ve noticed it’s rushing me.  Now it can’t hide.  It’s just a matter of time.  I know how to get around that little voice that pushes me ever onwards, striving to rush yelling at me to “get it all done now”, and “don’t you dare stop for a moment of solitude and silence”.  Today, I’m onto it, that kind of talk is just not on! Today, I want off the edge.

I gratefully receive my take-a-way caramel latte, half -shot caramel because sugar makes me more hyper. My brain thinks coffee is God, so it’s cool with proceedings so far, thinking it’s got me by the horns. I walk towards the pulsing markets. “Oh!  More rushing and activity. Goodie” my brain prattles at me. It knows it can hide its agenda and its relentless voice amidst the noise and bustle.  I have to go through that teeming sea of people to get back to my car. But instead of pushing and forcing my way through the hubbub with purpose and urgent determination to get back to work as my brain would have it, I purposefully change my pace to a cruising amble and veer suddenly towards the park.  I can go that way too. My brain resists “What are you doing?  This way is longer. You’ll be late. This is out of the way, much less efficient use of your time and energy here, you idiot”.  My rebellious nature kicks in and I ignore it, slowing even more.

In the park, excellent. Now I’ve got the upper hand.  Nature will do that. Nature is always on our side and always wins eventually.  I glance up at the blue sky through the canopy, the first sunlight in days dapples warmth on my face and I let a quiet smile reach my lips. “AGGGHH, she’s enjoying this” screams my brain. “Someone stop her, I’m losing control here people”. I wonder who its talking to?

Then, in total defiance of my internal pressures and self-imposed deadline to get home by 10am, I hesitate. My strolling comes to a dead stop, just for a moment. I break into a grin and winningly say to my freaking brain “SHUT UP! I’m busy here.

And it does.

All it takes is that one moment.  I only need a moment to smell the damp earth beneath my feet, drink in the sight of verdant, luminous grass, immerse myself in the music of a hundred different birds.  In that moment, I find my peace, replenish my energy stores and hit the refresh button.  There is silence there, once my brain knows its place.  It just needs to know I’m in charge.

“Shut up.” I repeat more kindly this time, “I’m busy here. Rest now. It’s all okay. Shhh”.

Awareness fills the silence.

Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.

Simple.

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I Am All That I Am… and more!

I’ve started this blog because I am really over being labelled.   You cannot put me in a box that says ‘writer’ or ‘mother’ or ‘cellist’.  All of me does not fit under just one label.  I’m more like a diamond with multifacets of being-ness. What you see depends where the light is shining.

Sometimes the light illuminates my ‘writer’ facet, other days I shine it on my ‘earth mother’ facet.  I am also an artist, teacher, facilitator, student nurse, mother, girlfriend, daughter, spiritual being, earthy nature lover, author, traveler and musician.  It’s true.  I am all these things, and more.

The point is, I am not defined by what I do with my time but how brilliantly the shines a light on an aspect of my unique expression of divine source.  Some of the things I do are directly connected and aligned with my source-self and light up the world illuminating the path for others.  But there are other things I do that just light up the room so that I can see three feet in front of my own eyes.

Here in this virtual space, you will find me to be complex, dark, bitter, wise, reflective, musical, thoughtful, light, sad, anxious, loving, joyful and creative.  What you will not ever find is a fake person. Sometimes I will make mistakes, post things other people think I should not, try too hard, think too much, and fly in the face of convention.  I suspect that some readers may decide they don’t like me or what I have to say.  But others?  Well, I bet I’m not the only one in the world who feels they just cannot ignore the calling to be utterly and truly real.

I am all these things, I do all these jobs, I have all these facets.  None of them in their singularity define me, but together they make up the complex and spirited women named Kristy.

I am one diamond, many facets.

Which facet of your divinity are you illuminating today?

Which facet of your divinity are you illuminating today?

xxk

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